Dear Maria: Is Dating a Non-Creative Hard?

QUESTION:

Dear Maria,

From one creative to another, do you find it hard when dating a non-creative? I find most times they don’t get it!

-Wannabe Artist

ANSWER:

Yerrrrr!

I hope you’re  surviving the retrograde. I know most of us are just trying to make it through the rest of 2019. This is actually such a dope question and in reality, I don’t know that I myself have the most experience - at least not in recent years. I have found myself more attracted to other creatives and they are typically who I attract. However, if I go far back enough and even with some of my friends, I guess I understand what you mean when you say, “they don’t get it.”

Creatives (no matter what field you are in) are people who have to express themselves, most commonly in an artistic way. When that urge for release of said expression comes, there’s nothing stopping it and that is what I think “non-creatives” don’t understand. However, understanding and respecting are two different things. They have to respect that sometimes your “art” will come first and has some priority. This should not make them feel less than if they are a person who can respect the passion behind your craft. 

I think we all can agree that when you’re dating someone, that person yearns for your undivided attention. However, c’mon now! As adults we should know that in the real world of dating we will not be able to devote 100% attention to one another and should encourage each other to go after our creative passions, and also push us to flourish. The creative in the relationship also needs to ensure they are checking in on their partner and meeting their needs.

To answer your question, I don’t think a creative dating a non-creative should be difficult at all, as long as both parties are mature and respectful of each others needs! And if he ain’t ... issa chop!

Hope that helps! ;)

- Maria

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